No More Excuses Kaz....

Pre-season Task 2 - Get Real.

First I need to confess... ‘I HAVE NEVER TAKEN RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY ACTIONS’ and that is the reason I am unfit, unhappy, unhealthy and overweight.  I have let everyone else take blame for whom and what I am.  This is going to stop NOW.  I use my past as my biggest excuse.  Yes I HAD a bad past but I’m not HAVING a bad life now.  I am blessed with two beautiful children, a husband who loves and supports me, a place I call home, I am surrounded by family and friends, I’m able to study for my chosen career, I don’t live in poverty, I do not have any disease or illness, I have a part-time job working with great people and flexibility, so why do I live my wonderful life with my head stuck in the past.  It’s time to get real and let the past go. There will be tears (like right now) and it will be hard but its okay to experience emotions (and not eat them), that is how we grow as people and we overcome life’s obstacles and move forward.

I am sure that I have more excuses but here are some of the biggies.

When I go through my excuses I realise that the solution, especially for the internal excuses is all in your head.  It is changing how I think.

Internal excuses

1.       I’ve had a hard life and I deserve to have life easy, leave me alone.

Solution:  Get real – I’m not having a hard life now, my life is in my hands and I have control.

2.       It’s not my fault (blaming my past) – my mum made me eat everything on my plate, I had to eat what I was given, I didn’t get much as a child so I can have whatever I want now I can afford it for myself, I always got the last serving so I deserve to have more now.

Solution: I can’t change the past but I can take control of the now and the future.  I have control of how much I eat, serve up, what I cook, I don’t have to have treats just because I can afford them, my body doesn’t need all that food.

3.       I feel sick/sore/unmotivated/have a headache etc...

Solution:  Seriously..If I feel that sick, go to the doctor. It’s not about motivation, it’s about JFDI.  Take some Panadol and get on with it.

4.       I’m depressed, it’s too hard for me to get up and exercise or eat healthy

Solution:  I’m not depressed now, and if I was the best thing for me to do would be to get up and exercise and eat healthy.  But this is a hard one and sometimes when depression hits it is hard to overcome but by being positive is a good start.

5.       If I push myself to hard I will get hurt and not be able to continue

Solution: Get real!!! If I push myself I might actually get results!!!! Yes it is going to hurt (like my muscles are killing right now but I still got up and exercised this morning) but that is normal and they are getting used to being used and not laying dormant!

6.       If I deprive myself of treats all I will want to eat is treats....

Solution: Treats are for sometimes not every day, every meal.  They still will be there when I get to my goal, I will still be able to buy it if I feel like it but I don’t need it right now.  And treats should be treats not every day.

7.       I’ve blown it now I might as well eat everything in the cupboard

Solution:  NO, I have slipped up or hit a bump, it is only one meal/snack and the best thing for me to do is to make a better choice at my next meal.  If it was a bad day, tomorrow is a new day and a chance to get back on track.

8.       I’m fat anyway

Solution:  Yes I am fat but that doesn’t mean I have to stay that way, I choose to be fit, healthy and active.

9.       I’m a failure and don’t succeed at anything.

Solution:  I have succeeded at plenty.  I get great results for my uni study, I am valued at work, my children love me, I had a successful day yesterday and the day before etc.  I am not a failure.

External excuses

1.       I’m too busy

Solution:  Time manage, get my diary out and plan exercise time, make a meal plan, set aside time for the mindset challenges, set aside time to go through my feelings and thoughts, give myself. Not this year as I have 2 days to myself each week.

2.       I can’t afford it

Solution:  I seem to be able to afford to buy take-away whenever I want so I can afford it I just need to re-prioritise my spending.

3.       I’m too tired

Solution:  Sleep more.  Go to bed earlier; make a routine so I will go to sleep earlier.  Prioritise sleep, it helps you burn fat!!

4.       I’m too sore

Solution:  Massage, Epson salt baths, muscle cream (dencorub) and take magnesium to help with muscle fatigue.  Also, if I’m sore that means that I am working my muscles and getting fitter and healthier.

5.       I have too much to do (and it has to be done now!)

Solution:  This really is lame excuse as I can always do it later and will do it later.

6.       I’m too shy to go to the gym or meet new people

Solution:  I’m just embarrassed at how I look and feel.  I am who I am and people can either accept me for who I am or not.  That is their choice and I cannot change that.  If I am true to myself and who I am and be me I have no reason to be shy.

7.       I’ll hurt myself if I overdo it

Solution: Possible but I know my own limits and when I am hurting from pain or just working hard.  Use my intuition and go see a dr if unsure.  

Major crisis

1.       Sick children/husband/myself

2.       Major financial crisis

3.       Major change in life situation

There really is no solution but to work out how I can continue on my journey if these situations occur.  I still need to be the best version of me possible even if these situation/crisis did occur.

Sorry for the long post....

For now, 

Kaz :)